Saturday, October 6, 2007

Opportunity


Last night at work gave me the perfect opportunity to reach outside myself and practice compassion.

I was in a grumpy mood when I showed up for my 1-9:30 shift yesterday. I was going to grit my teeth and get it done, but I was going to grumble my way through it.

Things changed however when I realized I wasn't the only one having a bad day. My friends who were working that night were having it a lot more rough than perhaps I
ever have.

So I took a deep breath and took Thich Nhat Hahn's advice about intentional listening and deep understanding. I can only hope that talking to someone helped them to feel a little better, but I will probably never know. I do know however that it felt good for me to step outside myself and try to genuinely be there for another person. It's an amazing experience when time and the rest of the world slows down and you can mindfully be present with another human being.

I think the hardest part of understanding suffering is understanding (and more so accepting) that not only is the victim hurting, but the one who perpetrated the hurt is suffering just as much if not more so. We like to "otherize" people who hurt us. We don't want to understand or feel compassion for our enemies.

I like the quote on Kat's facebook profile- "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

Another thought- Sushi four times in the past week. Not only am I spoiled, I'm probably going to get mercury poisoning.

Do you care for tea?

Clean cup, clean cup. Move down!

---EDIT---



Lindsey Dayafter got bored checking out churches and other serene places, so she headed to a place called "Lucifer's Nightclub" or something to that effect to get her groove on. I don't know how long I can continue with this Second Life experiment because I'm already tired of people propositioning me. Get a life people...sheesh.
Oh wait...

3 comments:

Mark said...

Can you imagine what real life would be like if propositions were as normal as they are on the internet? You're just walking down the street and someone you've never met asks if you'd like to have sex with them so you pretend you don't speak English? It'd be strange. Kinda reminds me of A Clockwork Orange. Minus the speaking English part.

gabriel said...

A very merry unbirthday to you.

I'm glad you could be there for your coworkers... and I got IHOP out of it to boot. :)

Kat H said...

I have that quote taped to my phone at work, so whenever someone is a jerk and taking it out on me I have to remember why I even have a job and how terrible life can be.

I've been voted "most compassionate and tenderhearted" at work, so I guess it's working.

My sushi tally for last week: III :)